On a serious note,  I've been thinking about something that has bothered me for a while.

Sometimes someone does something to us that seems pretty traumatic.  That person doesn't realize how that has affected us.  

Someone at work reported something I did, which I should not have done and I was on report for three months.  I ended up not working with this individual for a few years.

I saw this person in a store, I started shaking, got panicky and ran out of the store! 

Things worked out that we were in the same work area again.  I had all of this trauma, and this person didn't act as if anything had ever happened.

So . . .

       something that causes us pain is our cross to bear, and we need to find a way to work it out for our benefit, the other person probably doesn't even care.  

Forgiveness is for ourselves.  It will set us free from the burden of carrying it with us all the time.  

I've read the five "Walk" books by Richard Paul Evans.  He explains it much better than me.  

When I finally realized how much that report had ruined my life for months, bothered the person - zero - I had to find my own way to let go.